You've recruited your wife! Classic. :-) I just offered to give my husband my login. Haha
Interesting what you say about writing in publications. I always publish in publications, because I feel it improves visibility. I go to publications to find things to read, precisely because the Medium recommendations are so crap. If you're not in a pub, I won't find your story. Unless I'm following you.
But saying that, I did feel yesterday, after publishing a piece in my own publication, that perhaps I should have tried to sell it to a real magazine first. Admittedly, it was an old draft from a museum visit over 5 years ago. At the time, I pitched it to death and no one cared. Then the main highlight of the story shut down, I used one paragraph about the permanent exhibition in a magazine, and that was it.
The exhibitions might have since changed, but I suspect they haven't changed much. Perhaps I'll review my speed to publish strategy, but I like to have something new in my teeny publication every day. Which is probably a flawed priority, given as I'm thinking of closing the damn thing because, nice as the idea was, it's been nothing but a headache to run.