They don't listen to me either, and I don't have an ASD diagnosis. I think being female doesn't help. I was reading something recently that said we had more wrong diagnoses and are more likely to be considered worrying about nothing than men. But I'm sure men get it too. I've started putting everything in writing, because they classically write down what I've allegedly told them completely wrong. Anyway, I've come to the conclusion that the best approach is to fix as much I can without any doctors and leave them for emergencies and last resorts.