Sounds like a nasty piece of work. My dad was a bit like that. Basically they like to pick fault with absolutely everything and seem to hate you. The manipulation and everything - horrible.

I had a gobby, noisy, insensitive, frankly pretty horrible sister too, but I didn't hate her. It was a relief when she left home though. I'd have left, but my parents took my mediocre earnings, so I couldn't afford to leave.

I now have issues with the other sister, who every Christmas when she's got an audience, criticises things I did 30 years ago. I still believe my actions were completely justified.

Honestly, families are nightmares if you clash badly. Yes, some of it was abusive. Dad was a nightmare. I've been coming to terms with that in recent years too. The pandemic has just given me an excuse to see less of them, which suits me fine.