Oh my gosh Deborah, you are a tower of strength. I'm so sorry you've had this dropped on you. I find myself thinking, can't you just pay someone to take over this responsibility and pay them from the estate, but you're such a good person, you probably don't want to do that. But the fact that you've had to abandon your own work commitments speaks volumes, and I can only imagine the stress. I'd find it horrendous. I'm glad things are starting to sort themselves out, and I hope it gets easier, and maybe eventually, you can buy in some extra help, if you need it, so you can have some of your own life back.