I'm going to read these articles, but I'm going to take a punt with my 'off the head' perspective on this and say I agree with you. The spectrum is huge. We all have strengths and weaknesses. Is an introvert disabled if they're shy? No. So, on the same note, I'd say that having weaknesses, like Elon Musk being socially challenged by Asperger's means he has weaknesses, but I'd struggle to say he's disabled. But perhaps that's because I'm not privy to his other challenges. On the other hand, someone who has debilitating and crippling severe autism would be reasonably considered disabled. And I suppose, this is where it gets tricky - how does any individual define disability (compared to everyone having strengths and weaknesses). And people will have different views on this and some will be offended. Such is life.

EDIT — just read yours and I guess it comes down to severity. Which at the borderline edge that I’m on, is hugely subjective.