I'm going to now make completely unfounded judgement about the person who posted that message on your story. My judgement might be completely wrong because I know nothing about them or their circumstances.

I think they were speaking from a place of pain and personal experience. It looks to me like the words of someone who feels their own life was ruined by absent or warring parents who split up and as a child, they blamed themselves.

This person may have spent their lives feeling confused and guilty. Then they woke up, and realised many years into their turmoil, that it was not them, but their parents, to blame.

I suspect for this reason, they are struggling to see beyond the pain of the children caught up in it - and through a lens of their own experiences (your children's experiences might be much better).

So it reads like they're blaming you. And I suppose they are, but it looks to me like they're also speaking from the heart about the pain experienced by those affected by circumstances over which they have no control.

As always, I think it says more about them than about you... and on this one, I'd probably actually sympathise with what they might have experienced that makes them want to say this.

BUT as I say, it's all conjecture and they might just be trying to annoy you. If that's the case, I guess it worked. Did it touch a nerve? I've known people who were pleased their parents split because the relationship was awful. I assume your kids felt loved and had happy lives?

Anyway, that's my tuppenceworth. Probably not worth arguing with this one though.